Comments on: Rules of Engagement:Social Networking for Business…You “get it” (or do you?)

By: HeatherO s Good Soup of Info, Stories and More to Feed Your Mind, Your Spirit, and Your Business » Top 5 Good Soup Posts of 2009

Sat, 02 Jan 2010 22:01:44 +0000

[...] #5 Rules of Engagement & Authenticity [...]

By: Heidi Richards Mooney

Heidi Richards Mooney — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 18:33:37 +0000

Heather, just wanted to stop by and check out your blog (and thank you for leaving a comment on mine). I am delighted I did. You and I think along the same lines and it is nice to see someone sharing the “how to’s” as opposed to theories on their blog.

When you write you have something to say and I am delighted to learn from you.

Wishing you a wonderful day… and then some,

Heidi Richards Mooney, Author, Entrepreneur, Business Coach

By: HeatherO

HeatherO — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 19:41:06 +0000

thanks Bonnie! Hopefully spreading the message will help others too! Often times people just need confidence that people will want what they have to offer.

By: bonnie

bonnie — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 01:02:11 +0000

when i first saw this blog i was sure if i was on the write page but after reading down i new i was on the rite page. i have to say it is a great blog and some thing i have been saying for awhile now. get to know me first and be yourself than ask if you can send some thing or if i be interested. thanks so much for this blog

By: Dixie Gillaspie

Dixie Gillaspie — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 05:29:56 +0000

I’d like nothing better than to find a way to work together. I enjoy your spirit very much. I not only believe in synergy – it’s part of my “energy, synergy, harmony” tag line. Would love to find a good time for a phone call.

Dix

By: HeatherO

HeatherO — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 04:56:38 +0000

I think you said it best Michelle, you can’t “fake it”! But if you WANT to do the right thing, and you really come from a place of wanting to help, you will “get it” when you are presented with the perspective. We both know people who claim to teach/coach/train “authenticity. And there couldn’t be a stronger “vibe” of inauthenticity about them! People have to BE authentic, and then shown how they can BE that way, not DO it!
thanks Michelle!

By: HeatherO

HeatherO — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 04:52:45 +0000

Thanks Dixie! I agree whole heartedly. You can’t really “teach” people some things. But you can help others see that there is a better way. If they have the right “heart” and purpose (which most do) it will make sense to them. For many, it’s just breaking bad habits & training! I too used to do the mass email thing. I just never really thought about it this way!
As you know, I’m a huge fan of the go-giver. I would love to know more about how you teach it, and would love to see if there is a way that we could work together somehow. I believe in synergy and can only imagine how powerful ours could be! Thanks so much for your comment!

By: Dixie Gillaspie

Dixie Gillaspie — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 04:41:30 +0000

Heather – you are so on the mark here. I don’t teach social networking (no gurus here) but I do speak on networking and a networking strategy is always part of my coaching process. There may be no “rules” to networking or social networking either one but my philosophy – and what I share with audiences and clients – is that the desired OUTCOME of networking may be to sell but the ACTIVITY of networking is to build genuine and lasting relationships. You seldom begin a relationship with a sale. Social networking is no different – it is just a different tool set.

To Michelle’s point – I have been teaching and coaching The Go-Giver (with the authors’ blessing) for over a year. I am seeing a lot of people suddenly proclaiming that they “get it” and that they can teach others to get it. I’ll be the first to say that after reading over 100 X and studying and creating materials I find something new every time I work with a new client. But if they can bring attention to the book people will create their own success from there so it’s all good.

Thanks again, Heather, for the post and the conversation!

By: Janel

Janel — Sun, 29 Mar 2009 00:16:09 +0000

Good advice for just about anything in life!

By: Michelle

Michelle — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 20:23:48 +0000

Hear hear! I post articles like this as well. The funny thing is (and the reason why I say it), I deliberately post mine in the middle of all the others that are being presented in the poorest fashion possible: give me money, come to my event, this product sucks but mine just happens to work wonders…you get the picture. And yet, the sales pitches disguised as friendly comments or blog posts or forum answers continue.

I take every opportunity I can to help educate others as to a better and more profitable way of putting yourself out there, and I also share my own mistakes (we all had a first day on the job once). But you are so right, if you are locked into a money-stealing mentality (read: old school), then there is nothing the rest of us can really say to help you.

I just hope that being a go-giver isn’t becoming a trend and thus people begin to engage in pull marketing simply because it’s the ‘in’ thing to do. But that’s where authenticity comes in to play–you can’t fake the mentality, only the actions.